My life is full…full of anxiety, worry and fear!
An exercise in personal development
By Greg Dalton
Do you lead a full life? Yes… but what is it full of? Worry, Fear and Anxiety? If your life is full of these it can’t be fulfilled. Actually a life full of this is not full at all but quite an empty life. Reluctant as I am to talk negatively, but some of you will recognisethis in yourselves.
If your life is empty of your own personal development, of happiness and excitement, and until you fill your life with fun, joy, excitement and happiness you will continue live with anxiety, worry and fear.
To remove this anxiety and suffering and to gain the inner peace that you seek and grow as you want to grow we need to look at what we truly want from our lives.
You are the one who is in control and you can make your life how you want it to be. Part of this power is gained by learning what to do and then practising so that you can move from your fearful state to that of confidence.
We go through life in a state of being, that can be described as unaware, like being in a daydream state. As you meet people and become involved in situations you unconsciously react. In other words you are unaware of the forces that come into play and guide your actions, so you bounce from one situation to another and have negative experiences
It’s time to stretch yourself, let loose your potential, and grow into the greatness you should be.
Whether we’re employed or unemployed, rich or poor, young or old, male or female, we each have our own unique skills and talents. We are our own unique person individually. Your parents have always told you this so why haven’t you believed and listened to them?
Figuring out your own individual vision may seem like the most complicated challenge you will ever have in your life. It doesn’t have to be and the personal rewards of gong through the process are immense.
The process involves thinking, thinking about what you are, what you want to achieve, what motivates you and what will help you to gain the success and satisfaction that you not only deserve but can actually achieve it.
A simple but extremely powerful exercise is training yourself how to allow your creative side of your brain to permit you achieve what its telling you, and to stop the analytical side from preventing you achieving your desires. You can make it happen.
There is only one person stopping you from achieving the greatness you desire. We can all make the excuses about lack of time, someone else’s fault or something else’s fault.
Imagine yourself in terms of your own personal development, what does that mean to you?
Picture yourself where or what you want to be. How do you feel when you are there? How do you feel to be that person, living your life as you want it to be, without the excuses or blame associated with failure? What is your life like as that person you want to be or become?
In order for you to be that person what is it that you want or need to have, picture it, if you have what you need to be that person how does that feel. Quite a pleasant picture you are building, but yet it seems so unachievable, but why.
How difficult is it for you to achieve this, what is it that YOU need to do in order for you to achieve it, again picture it in your mind, let the creative side of your ol’ grey matter work a bit harder and stop analysingit so it doesn’t happen.
What is it that you need to do in order for you to have what you want, to become what you want in your life.
- Do you always start projects full of enthusiasm but don’t get the finished?
- Are you full of ideas, but don’t turn them into anything concrete?
- Do you move from one relationship to the next still searching for your ‘soulmate’?
- Are you unhappy in your current relationship but fearful of getting out of it?
- Do you suffer from low self-esteem or lack confidence?
- Are you not satisfied with your employment or business?
- Does your life have no purpose or meaning?
- You have no direction in life?
- You want to do more or you are afraid?
- You rush around doing a lot but not achieving much?
The only way to achieve what we want is in stages or steps.
So how do you know that you haven’t already reached your potential, and that everything else is going to be a waste of your time, money and effort?
Now this may sound like a bit of a contradiction, but where most of us fail is in how we go about setting these goals. Most of us will set the goal as we see it, then take a giant leap forward to achieve it and miss out on the smaller highly important things we need to do to get or be what we want.
The simple answer is, if you can imagine it, you CAN have it. The difficulty is that you feel that there is an enormous gap between what you believe is reality and the limits of your imagination.
Setting goals to work towards helps you to create and enhance your sense of purpose in life. By setting these goals our motivation is increased and we will then increase our energy as a direct result of these goals.
Completing these goals helps you to create a sense of achievement which heightens your self esteem.
It is important that your write your goals down. Make it black and white, this will help you to keep focused and maintain the right frame of mind. It helps you as a reminder to achieve what you want to achieve, this is a great aid to motivation, when you look back over what you have achieved, motivates you to keep progressing easily.
There is so much more you can do with the right frame of mind. You may wish to change the way you are. Many people are in this situation. You are not quite satisfied with something about your life and wish to be different.
The key to change, to become something other than what you are today, is to adopt the perspective of who you want to be. Your thoughts create your world so you need to think from the perspective of the new you.
Planning helps you to create direction, improves your motivation and increases your energy
You need to be the new you. Right now!
This is very different to thinking that you will become something in the future. You can never be what you want, by having the opinion that you will, in the future "be that person". At some stage you must change your perspective and be that thing, now. In other words you need to shift into the present and say "I am"
So, why wait till you are more ready. Why not just "be" right now this very minute?